Today I spent the morning in the lovely Grande Spa. It was beautiful, with hot tubs and cold plunge pools, and waterfalls you could sit under for a massage. They had five different salt/essential oil baths of varying colors and purposes. They had full body spraying (pounding!) showers, a sauna, a steam room, and a Japanese bubbling hot tub with another cold plunge next to it. It looked and smelled fantastic. They let you come an hour before your massage and spend that time dipping and soaking in all of their different baths and pools.
Then a lady named Helga calls your name and takes you into this little room. She has you lie down on the table and then she scrubs you head to toe with a sugar scrub and sprays you down with water to exfoliate your skin. It was rough. And interesting!
After my scrub, I soaked in the pools for a while longer--trying not to look at those who were enjoying the "swimsuit optional" rule--and waited for my massage therapist to call my name.
A few things were on my mind as I let pounding water cascade over my shoulders, or as I floated in a thick blue bath, or as I sat breathing in steam so heavy you couldn't see your hand in front of you.
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| The view from The Grande Spa....ahhhh! |
A few years ago I spent hours going through Grandma Fowler's life history before it was bound into books and given to all of the family. It was a precious time for me. I could hear her voice and feel her memory near. Together with Grandpa, she became very well-off financially in her life. They built a large, beautiful home. They owned a famous, busy restaurant. They had a large, successful family. They traveled the world together. But she often would say in amazement as she stood in famous places around the globe, "I'm just a little girl from Binford Alley in downtown Ogden. How did I get here?" She grew up in poverty, always hungry and often without a proper place to live or sleep. With the pressures and burdens of a difficult life, her father turned to alcohol, which later took his life. Grandma was often frightened and alone. So it was always with amazement that she looked at the blessed life she ended up with.
While lounging around the spa, I kept thinking of Grandma's words. "I'm just a little girl from Binford Alley." I know I never had anywhere near the hardships she had, but I'm just a little girl from Hooper, Utah. How did I get here? My mind was flooded with memories during my early married days. I thought of the hours I sat in the dingy, downtown Toledo, Ohio welfare office with my precious daughter, trying desperately to look like I didn't belong there. I thought of the apartment we lived in that, although it was very nice, was in a rough neighborhood and we were the only white family around. And there were skirmishes and suicide attempts and police cars. One night, our neighbor's car was getting stolen and she was out screaming and wailing. We were so distraught to see the men pushing it away. Then we learned from other neighbors that we were witnessing a repossession. Apparently, the bank or the car company or whoever 'steals' it back in the middle of the night. I thought of how Greg and I rarely, rarely went out together. We couldn't afford it. I thought of how humbling it was to stand in line at the grocery store and organize my items in piles so I could use my WIC coupons and then my food stamps. It took extra time, and I was always hoping no one would get in line behind me. My face would burn red if they did. But I was so, so grateful to have enough food for my family to eat. We were so dependent on everyone for everything. We flew home when our family paid for it. I got a haircut every time I visited my sweet mom and she scheduled it for me. I wore my little sister's clothes and relied on hand-me-downs for my own girls. And there was a constant stress and fear that our meager financial aid during medical school would run out.
But unlike Grandma's desperate younger years, Greg and I were happy. We were in love, and Greg was working as hard as I've ever seen him to secure a future for us. We felt that we had signed up for all of this, and that if we could endure, then a bright future was ahead. While we anticipated it to be super difficult, we failed to anticipate all of the wonderful, beautiful experiences we had too. We were poor. Very poor. But we quickly learned that being poor didn't change the amount of happiness we could feel.
Still. I can't forget those days. And I can't know why I am so lucky to be able to luxuriate in one of the most beautiful spas on one of the most beautiful islands in the world. I certainly didn't earn this. I certainly don't
deserve this. I leaned my head back into the warm water swirling around me, and suddenly my heart swelled up so much with love that tears sprang to my eyes. I'm just a little girl from Hooper, Utah. And I don't know how I got here! Then the words,
men are that they might have joy, came flooding into my mind and heart. I started to pray in my heart. I'm so grateful that I'm enjoying these beautiful days with my husband. I'm feeling so much joy. And I'm so grateful for ALL of the beautiful moments I've enjoyed in my life. Mixed up in the memories of our poor days in Ohio is an overwhelming feeling of joy. Because I've long known that joy is a feeling inside of your heart, independent of situations or circumstances.
That night we sat at a table with many doctors and PhDs for a beautiful sunset dinner on the grass overlooking the beach. It seemed I was the only one without grand, worldly accomplishments. So I mentioned our children and then showed off a picture. Everyone was amazed to see such a large, beautiful family staring back at them. They were curious to know how difficult it was having a family through all of the years of Greg's training and school. I kept hearing the words come out of my mouth, "We loved it. It was so fun to live there. We have such fond memories of those days." That is all very true.
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| Sunset dinner with the love of my life. |
Life has a way of ebbing and flowing. Sometimes you have a lot. Sometimes you have very little. I'm grateful that I've experienced both, and that I can remember it all. One absolute constant in my life has been my love and devotion to my Savior, Jesus Christ. And His love and devotion to me. I am trying every day to be the best that I can possibly be for Him. I know that He is the source of my joy, and any true happiness in this life. One thing they always say about prosperity is that people forget God. How could that be? I feel Him as much as ever in my life! I know He is aware of me and my family. I know He loves me. I know He expects a whole lot from me.
So that was the essence of my prayer that morning. I pledged my heart to Him again. I'm just a little girl from Hooper, Utah, but if there is any good on this earth for me to do, well, then, Here am I. Send me.